What's the difference between a yellow flag and a red flag with money?

Yellow: different spending habits, poor communication about finances, no budget system. Red: hiding purchases, secret debt, refusal to discuss finances, controlling partner's spending, income deception. Yellows need communication; reds need professional help or exit.

Is it a red flag if my partner won't share their bank info?

It depends on context. Early dating? Private accounts are fine. After 5 years or moving in together? It's concerning. Complete financial opacity in a committed partnership signals trust issues or control. If they won't even discuss finances without anger, that's a red flag regardless of account access.

Should I leave if we can't agree on money?

Not necessarily. Different approaches can coexist with structure (separate spending allowances, shared savings goals). But leave if: there's dishonesty, controlling behavior, refusal to discuss it, or fundamental values so misaligned no compromise exists. Partnership requires financial transparency and respect.