Is being a giver bad in relationships?

Generosity is good; total giving without receiving is unsustainable. Givers often attract takers (who appreciate generosity without reciprocating). Over time, resentment builds. Healthy relationships require both people to give and receive, though ratios vary.

How do I know if I'm a giver or taker?

Giver: you initiate plans, remember anniversaries, sacrifice for partner's goals, rarely ask for help. Taker: you expect partner to prioritize you, rarely reciprocate generosity, take for granted what they do. Matcher: you track give-receive and expect balance. Healthy is matcher-leaning (you give generously but also receive willingly).

How do I stop attracting takers?

Stop over-giving before you've assessed reciprocity. Let the person plan the next date. Notice if they ask about your life. See if they make effort to see you or expect you to do the work. Early giver-taker patterns predict long-term problems. Pause generosity until reciprocity appears.