What is infatuation in Sternberg's framework?

Infatuation is passion without intimacy or commitment. It's characterized by physical attraction, sexual desire, and emotional excitement, but minimal emotional connection or long-term intentions. It's often described as a "crush."

Why do people mistake infatuation for love?

Infatuation is intensely emotional and feels overwhelming, similar to early-stage romantic love. However, infatuation is based primarily on fantasy and physical attraction rather than knowledge of the real person.

How long does infatuation typically last?

Usually 3-6 months. Once the initial excitement fades and reality replaces fantasy, infatuation typically dissolves quickly. If intimacy develops, it can evolve into romantic love.

What happens when infatuation ends?

Without intimacy or commitment to sustain the relationship, infatuation endings are often abrupt and painful. Partners may move on, or if they've developed some intimacy, the relationship may transition to a different type of love.

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Infatuation: Passion Without Intimacy or Commitment

Peter Kolomiets

|March 22, 2026|Updated Apr 13, 2026|7 min read

Infatuation: Passion Without Intimacy or Commitment

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References

Sternberg, R. J. (1986). A Triangular Theory of Love
Aron, A., Fisher, H., Mashek, D. J., Strong, G., Li, H., & Brown, L. L. (2005). The Passionate Attraction System and Its Relation to Attachment and Pair Bonding
Sprecher, S., Aron, A., Hatfield, E., Cortese, A., Potapova, E., & Levitskaya, A. (1994). The Intensity of Love: An Evolutionary Perspective

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