What if we disagree on these questions?

Disagreement is workable; surprise is dangerous. You're not trying to agree on every answer—you're gaining transparency. "You want four kids; I want one" is a legitimate compatibility conversation. After marriage, discovering your partner wants something fundamentally different is devastating.

Are we asking to see if we should break up?

Not necessarily. The goal is informed choice. Some couples discover major differences and decide they can work through them. Others realize they're incompatible early. Either way, you're making a choice with full information rather than a choice made during wedding planning bliss.

Should we involve a financial advisor for these conversations?

Possibly. A financial advisor who specializes in couples can help you navigate disclosure of debt, assets, and credit history without judgment. They also help create a realistic financial plan together. This is often money well spent before marriage.

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References

Wally Godwin (2005). The Marriage Minute: A Year of Small Conversations That Will Strengthen Your Relationship
Sonya Britt (2012). Pre-Marriage Financial Counseling Outcomes
David Coleman (2012). Getting to Yes in Marriage: Negotiating Together

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