When is the best time to do a relationship health check?

Pick a calm moment—not during conflict or crisis. Annual checkups work well after an anniversary, New Year, or major life milestone. Set it as a ritual: "Every April, we review our relationship."

What if my partner refuses to do a health check?

Avoidance is telling. A partner who won't discuss the relationship's state either doesn't see problems (lack of awareness), doesn't care about improvement (disengagement), or fears the conversation (conflict avoidance). This itself needs addressing.

What do we do if the health check reveals big problems?

Use it as a catalyst for change: couples therapy, individual therapy, honest conversation, or a defined period of focused improvement. If nothing changes after honest effort, the health check becomes a clarity tool for your next decision.