How do I work with someone whose style annoys me?

Reframe annoyance as difference. They're not trying to annoy you; they're just wired differently. Understanding their style helps you interpret behavior charitably: a controlling coworker has a Dominant DISC style (not personal); a detail-obsessed coworker has Conscientiousness (not pedantry); a chatty coworker has Influence style (not avoidance).

Should I say something to a difficult coworker?

Only if they're affecting your work. Frame it as preference, not fault: "I work better with written summaries instead of long conversations—could we try that?" Most people are unaware they're difficult and appreciate feedback framed as preference, not criticism.

What if the difficult coworker is my boss?

You can't change them, but you can adapt. Document your work to satisfy their style (if detail-focused, give detailed reports). Communicate in their preferred way (if task-focused, be brief). Set boundaries gently (if controlling, give them authority over decisions that matter to them). Managing up requires flexibility.

CareerDISC MBTI

That Difficult Coworker: Understanding Personality Clashes

|April 19, 2026|8 min read

Ready to discover your DISC profile?

Take the free test

References

Kerry Patterson (2011). Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High
Douglas Stone, Bruce Patton, Sheila Heen (2010). Difficult Conversations: How to Discuss What Matters Most
Daniel Goleman (2006). Workplace Personalities and Conflict

Take the Next Step

Put what you've learned into practice with these free assessments:

Disc Test Mbti Test

Explore Remote Careers

👥HR Manager→💼Sales Manager→📋Project Manager→All careers →

Career

That Difficult Coworker: Understanding Personality Clashes

References

Take the Next Step

Explore Remote Careers

Related Articles

Workplace Personality Compatibility: Building Strong Team Dynamics

DISC Compatibility at Work: Understanding Your Coworkers' Styles

Managing Up: Understanding Your Boss's Personality