Akuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane kumuntu, noma akathiwa umuntu akaxoxane embuzehlweni? Uhlolo lokuzibhekameza luqondene nokuthiwa umuntu akakho, izinga lokuhambana, nokuzikhandela. Ithuluzi lokuzibhekameza, hhayi isigamulelo somungshi.
Ayikho okubhalisa—imiphumela yakho iyavela kabini.
Loneliness research domain structure (perceived isolation, connection quality, sense of belonging) · Original 21 items, not the copyrighted/restricted UCLA Loneliness Scale (Russell, 1996; Russell, Peplau & Cutrona, 1980) — we do not administer that instrument.
Cha. Ithuluzi lokuzibhekameza elilungile, hhayi isigamulelo somungshi. Alukwazi ukutshela ukuthi ukuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane kukokoqaphelela—kuphela umuntu ongumbongi onelayisensi okungakwenza lokho. Okuthi alukwazi ukukunikeza ifoto elula kulozinene lokuthi umuzwa wokuthiwa umuntu akakho sibonakala njani, okwingoba inzalamane elungile uma ucabanga ukuthi ubunzima bokuhalala.
Yebo—iyona inzuzo efakade lokuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane, futhi ayikhulunywa. Ungafana nokuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane embuzehlweni lungile ezntu ezazibukhulu, noma embuzehlweni elimele, nemdeni umuntu. Ukuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane kuqondene nobukhulu bokuhambana okhona, hhayi inombolo yabuntu emzini.
Qala ngokubheka imiphumela yakho njengolwazi, hhayi isivumelanode. Inzalamane elungile ukuxoxa nochwepheshe, ngakho ngakho inzalamane okuzifunda embuzehlweni umuntu ozama okwakha bubudlelwane obunzi. Uma ubunzima obukulandela izinyanga ezo, izaga lokubheka umuntu ozama okwakha bubudlelwane obunzi.
Ukulala uwe kunendlela ephathekile, endingazo—akukho umuntu emzini. Ukuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane kunendlela ethuluzi—umuzwa womkambiso phakathi kokuhambana okufuno nokuhambana enayiphi. Ungakwazi ukulala uwe ngaphandle kokuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane, futhi ungakwazi ukuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane embuzehlweni lungile. Lolu hlolo lubheka umuzwa, hhayi isikhathi wakho sokulala uwe.
Ukuthatha okuhlolwa kwethu akumele kubhekwe njengokuhlolwa okugcwele nokunemba kwamandla akho. Imiphumela iyenhloso yokuthola ulwazi kanye nokuzibuyisela kuphela.
Akuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane kumuntu, noma akathiwa umuntu akaxoxane embuzehlweni? Uhlolo lokuzibhekameza luqondene nokuthiwa umuntu akakho, izinga lokuhambana, nokuzikhandela. Ithuluzi lokuzibhekameza, hhayi isigamulelo somungshi.
Lolu hlolo lubheka ukuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane ngezinne. Izinga lokuthiwa umuntu akakho bazindawo, nabani noma abakumbeka, okubheka isikhathi emvela lokho okozama, indawo yokuhambana phakathi kwabantu ozama nabaniyo futhi okhona nokumuntu ongqalile, nokuthiwa umuntu akakho emzini wakhe. Ndawonye, abathathu abaningi basebenza ndawonye bangakwazi ukuzikhombisa ngekusisindiswe.
Ukuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane akunilo ukuhlala uwe, noma ukuhlala uwe. Ungafana nokuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane lapho kukhona izinulwazi, embuzehlweni lungile ezindlunkulu, noma embuzehlweni elimele, esemdeni umuntu ovele, ngaphandle okwenzeke okuthuli. Ucwaningo lubheka ukuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane njengomkambiso phakathi kokuhambana okufuno nokuhambana enayiphi. Umsikukeli omdwelidayelile, kukhona isikhathi somzali ongophakamisela ukunetheka nempilo futhi ukunetheka okusacabangela lokhu njengokuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane kanye nowakufanayo ubonakele umkhuba.
Lolu hlolo yithuluzi lokuzibhekameza, hhayi ukuxilongwa, futhi akusikhundlela sokundlela ngochwepheshe onelayisensi. Libhekiswe kumfihlakwazi wenthelo lokuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane njengomkambiso phakathi kokuhambana okufuno nokuhambana enayiphi, okuhlanganiswe lapha ngolwimi olunqoba intwala, hhayi esiwaphakamiseleni, futhi aluzameli ukukutshela. Uma imiphumela yakho ibonakalo ikhona inzuzo enkulu yokuthi lokhu kusisindise, ukuxoxa nochwepheshe, ngakho inzalamane elungile—izinga lokuhambana, hhayi inombolo yezinhlamvu nje, yinto abucwaningo abakuthola elabela kakhulu.
Bona isikhathi sokuthiwa umuntu akakho—umuzwa wokuhlala uwe nabani nababakumbeka ngemuva.
Yazi izinga lokuhambana—ukuthi kunabani ozama kaburi noba kunabani okukwazi ukuvula nomuntu.
Qonda ukuthiwa umuntu akakho—ukuthi uzizwa ukuthi unandawo ngaphandle kokuqala umuntu omuhle.
Akukela umkhuba okuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane kumuntu—umuzwa wokuhlala uwe nabani nababakumbeka.
Akukela ukuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane embuzehlweni—umuzwa okudlula kumuntu ozama ngisho embuzehlweni elimele.
Ziphakamisele ngolwimi olusha kulozinene—okumukeleka ngochwepheshe noma okubungezo bubudlelwane obuningi.
I feel isolated from the people around me, even when I'm not physically alone.
Imibuzo 21, 5 imizuzu. Ayazisulisela—ayikho okwenjenje omuntu.
Okuboniswe kabini yobu wakho. Mahhala, okusetshenziswayo, okugcinile nxa ubhalise.
Epremiyamu ivula imphumela ephelele—umsebenzi, amandla, umhlela othuthuka.
Akuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane kumuntu, noma akathiwa umuntu akaxoxane embuzehlweni? Uhlolo lokuzibhekameza luqondene nokuthiwa umuntu akakho, izinga lokuhambana, nokuzikhandela. Ithuluzi lokuzibhekameza, hhayi isigamulelo somungshi.
Ayikho okubhalisa—imiphumela yakho iyavela kabini.
Loneliness research domain structure (perceived isolation, connection quality, sense of belonging) · Original 21 items, not the copyrighted/restricted UCLA Loneliness Scale (Russell, 1996; Russell, Peplau & Cutrona, 1980) — we do not administer that instrument.
Cha. Ithuluzi lokuzibhekameza elilungile, hhayi isigamulelo somungshi. Alukwazi ukutshela ukuthi ukuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane kukokoqaphelela—kuphela umuntu ongumbongi onelayisensi okungakwenza lokho. Okuthi alukwazi ukukunikeza ifoto elula kulozinene lokuthi umuzwa wokuthiwa umuntu akakho sibonakala njani, okwingoba inzalamane elungile uma ucabanga ukuthi ubunzima bokuhalala.
Yebo—iyona inzuzo efakade lokuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane, futhi ayikhulunywa. Ungafana nokuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane embuzehlweni lungile ezntu ezazibukhulu, noma embuzehlweni elimele, nemdeni umuntu. Ukuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane kuqondene nobukhulu bokuhambana okhona, hhayi inombolo yabuntu emzini.
Qala ngokubheka imiphumela yakho njengolwazi, hhayi isivumelanode. Inzalamane elungile ukuxoxa nochwepheshe, ngakho ngakho inzalamane okuzifunda embuzehlweni umuntu ozama okwakha bubudlelwane obunzi. Uma ubunzima obukulandela izinyanga ezo, izaga lokubheka umuntu ozama okwakha bubudlelwane obunzi.
Ukulala uwe kunendlela ephathekile, endingazo—akukho umuntu emzini. Ukuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane kunendlela ethuluzi—umuzwa womkambiso phakathi kokuhambana okufuno nokuhambana enayiphi. Ungakwazi ukulala uwe ngaphandle kokuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane, futhi ungakwazi ukuthiwa umuntu akaxoxane embuzehlweni lungile. Lolu hlolo lubheka umuzwa, hhayi isikhathi wakho sokulala uwe.