Uhlolele Wokuhlala Ngaphandle Kwezikholo, Uhlolele Omahhala Lwezilandalelo Ezingu-20
Izidingo zakho zagcwaliseka, kodwa kungani lokhu kusazizwa kungaxazululiwe? Uhlolo lokuzibhekameza olunemibuzo eyi-20 mayelana nokuqashelwa kwemizwa yakho, ukwamukelwa kwayo, nokusekelwa ebuntwaneni. Ithuluzi lokuzibhekameza, hhayi isigamulelo somungshi.
Yini i-Uhlolele Wokuhlala Ngaphandle Kwezikholo?
Lolu hlolo lubheka ukunganaki imizwa ebuntwaneni (CEN) ngokusebenzisa izigaba ezine: ukuthi imizwa yakho yayiqashelwa futhi iphendulwe ngesikhathi useyingane, hhayi kuphela ukuziphatha kwakho noma izidingo zakho (ukuqashelwa kwemizwa), ukuthi ukuzizwa kwakho ngokomzwelo kwakuthathwa njengokufaneleyo hhayi njengokudelelwa noma ukwenziwa kancane (ukwamukelwa kwemizwa), ukuthi induduzo yayitholakala ngempela lapho kwenzeka into enzima, ngokuhlukile kokuthi izidingo zakho zomzimba zazigcwaliseka yini (ukusekelwa emizweni), kanye nendlela lo mkhuba wamanje obonakala ngayo ekuphathweni kwemizwa yakho namuhla (imikhuba yamanje). Uma kuhlanganiswa, lezi zigaba ezine zinikeza umfanekiso ogcwele kunalowo obungatholakala ngombuzo owodwa: ikhaya lingase libukeke lilungile ngokuphelele uma libukwa ngaphandle, ukudla etafuleni, izingubo, uphahla oluzinzile, kodwa kusale kushiya umuntu engazange athole ithuba elanele lokuqashelwa, ukwamukelwa, noma ukududuzwa ngokomzwelo.
Funda KabanziBonisa Kancane
Ukunganaki imizwa ebuntwaneni kwehluke kokuhlukumezeka okusobala ngendlela ekufanele iqashelwe: ukuhlukumezeka kumayelana nalokho okwenzekile, ukumemeza, ukushaya, ubulwane; kodwa ukunganaki imizwa kumayelana nalokho okungazange kwenzeke, ukuqashelwa kwemizwa, ukwamukelwa kwayo, induduzo ebingazange ibonakale. Yingakho kulula ukuthi lokhu kungabonwa, kokubili kuwe nakubantu abakukhulisile, futhi yingakho kuvame ukufingqwa ngokuthi 'izidingo zami zagcwaliseka, angazi kungani ngizizwa kanje.' Umzali akudingeki ukuthi abe nenhloso yokulimaza ukuze ingane ikhule ingazange ithole ithuba elanele lokubonwa ngokomzwelo. Kuba yinto okumele iqashelwe uma lo mkhuba wasebuntwaneni uqhubeka uphindaphinda manje: ubunzima bokuqamba lokho okuzwayo, ukubhekana nemizwa enzima wedwa ngokuphelele, noma ukuzizwa unecala uma ucela usizo ngisho kubantu okusobala ukuthi bayakukhathalela.
Lolu hlolo luyithuluzi lokuzibhekameza, hhayi isigamulelo somungshi, futhi alukhi esikhundleni sokuhlolwa ngongoti abanelayisense. Lususelwa emkhubeni ofanayo owadunyiswa udokotela wengqondo uJonice Webb njengokunganaki imizwa ebuntwaneni, lokhu kwenziwe kwaba imibuzo emisha, elula ukuyiqonda, hhayi noma yisiphi isigamulelo esisodwa esinamalungelo obunikazi. Uma imiphumela yakho izwakala sengathi ikuchaza, ukubona udokotela wezengqondo owaziyo ngokunganaki imizwa ebuntwaneni noma ochwepheshe abagxile ebudlelwaneni nokuzwana kwabantu kuyisinyathelo esihle esilandelayo: ukuqamba lo mkhuba, ngaphandle kokusola muntu, kuvame ukuba yilapho kuqala khona ukufunda ukuqaphela nokugcwalisa izidingo zakho zomzwelo.