How does trauma bonding form?

Through cycles: abuse → fear/stress → reconciliation/relief. During abuse, stress hormones flood your system. During reconciliation, relief hormones create a high. Your brain associates the person with this intense emotion, creating attachment despite the harm.

Is trauma bonding real love?

No. It's a stress response, not love. It *feels* intense, which mimics love, but it's built on fear and control. Real love is stable, safe, and doesn't require conflict cycles to feel present.

Can you break a trauma bond?

Yes, but it requires distance. You can't break the cycle while in it. Physical separation, therapy, and support from friends help your nervous system rewire. Over weeks to months, the bond weakens.