Frequently Asked Questions
What is the Emotional Intensity & Relationships Check-In test?
This is a 24-question self-reflection tool that looks at eight patterns often discussed together: fear of abandonment, relationship stability, sense of self, impulsivity, self-harm urges, emotional intensity, a chronic sense of emptiness, and anger control. It takes about 5 minutes and groups your answers into one of four bands: minimal, mild, moderate, or significant.
How accurate is this self-test?
This check-in uses original questions covering broad, well-studied domains around emotional intensity and relationship patterns; it is not a validated clinical instrument and does not produce a diagnosis. Think of it as a structured way to notice patterns worth discussing with a professional, not a substitute for a full clinical interview.
How long does this check-in take?
About 5 minutes for all 24 questions, using a simple four-point scale from 'Never' to 'Almost Always.'
What should I do if my result is significant?
If your result suggests a strong pattern, please reach out to a professional soon. In the US, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline). In the UK, call Samaritans at 116 123 (free, 24/7) or text SHOUT to 85258. If you are in immediate danger, contact your local emergency number or go to the nearest emergency room. This tool is not a diagnosis, a licensed professional can give you one.
How reliable is this check-in?
Because it is a self-report tool, results can shift with mood, stress, or recent events; retaking it during a calmer period can offer a useful comparison point. It looks at patterns in emotion, relationships, and impulse control over time rather than a single mood or event.
Is this a replacement for therapy or medication?
No. This is a self-reflection tool intended to help you notice patterns worth discussing with a professional. It does not replace clinical evaluation, therapy, or medical treatment, including dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), a well-established treatment for these patterns.