Okukhula Kokuqonda Umuzwa Okungokoqobo
Umbono omile, ukucabanga okukomplikeyithi, ukuhlala okusisekile
Iphrofayili yakho yokukhula komuzwa ibonisa ukuthuthuka kwesigabe sokukhula, wakhile umbono okungokoqobo, ungakwazi ukubamba izinto eziphikisanayo ngaphandle kokudinga ukuxazulula, futhi wenza izinqumo ezivela ezindindinweni zakho kunokusabela ngokushesha.
Okukhula kokuqonda umuzwa okukhuluphele kubonakala ngale ndlela: ukubona izinto ngamehlo abanye, ukuthula ngokungaqinisekile, amandla okubona imiphumela yesikhathi eside, nokusibusisa ekubhekananeni nokulukhuni. Uzwa izimuzwa ngokuqina kodwa azivumeli ukuthi zikuqonde izinqumo. Ungakwazi ukubamba ubuhlungu babanye ngaphandle kokubuthela. Awukhathali kakhulu, unentshisekelo enkulu ngamacebo ahlukile, futhi uxolo kakhulu kuwe nokwehluleka kwabanye. Lokhu akukhukhulela ukuba ngumuntu ophelele; kukhulela ekubambeni umile. Esigabeni sini, inselelo yakho ayisikho ekuthuthukeni komuzwa kodwa ekugcineni ubuqotho nokuthuthuka kokuqonda njengoba ubunzima bukhula. Ukulungele ukufundisa abanye nokuhola ngokuqonda okungokoqobo.
Amandla
- Okuqonda okungokoqobo kwamacebo ahlukile
- Ukuthula ngokungaqinisekile nokungaqinisekile
- Ukulawula umuzwa okukusile nokusimama nokuqina
- Ukucabanga kwesikhathi eside nokubamba isikhathi
- Amandla okubamba ubuhlungu babanye ngaphandle kokwahlulela
Izindawo zokukhula
- Ungase ungacabangi amandla omuzwa adingekayo ekuthuthukeni kwabanye
- Ingozi yokusuka kude uma ukhona umile kakhulu
- Kunokuba nokulukhuni nokubona izinto ngamehlo amasha noma ukwenza izinguquko ezibheke phambili
- Ungase ulukhuni ezindaweni ezinobhubhane lapho abantu befuna ukusimama kwakho
- Ingozi yokubhakela uma uthatha uxanduva olunele lwabanye
Unohlobo olufanayo nalaba
Abantu abadumile abanephrofayela efanayo
Fred Rogers
Umfundisi kanye nomvikeli wabantwana. Wabonisa okukhula kokuqonda umuzwa okukhuluphele; waziwa ngokuthanda okokuqala, ubuqotho, nokusimama okusisekile.
Oprah Winfrey
Isithombe semidiya. Ibhalise indlela yokukhula komuzwa kusukela ekuhluphekuneni kuya ekuqondeni; manje isebenzisa indawo yayo ukusiza abanye bacabange ngokukhula kwabo.
Nelson Mandela
Umholi kanye nomvikeli. Wabonisa okukhula kokuqonda okukhuluphele: ukuxolela ngemuva kokuhluphekuneni, umbono ongaphezu kwelutha, ukulandelela ngokusebenzela abanye.
Maya Angelou
Umbhali kanye nomshayeli. Waletha umbono okukhula ekusindiseni nokusimama nokuqina; wabhala ngokukhula nokokuqonda okumile.
Ukufaniswa kwemisebenzi
Imibuzo evame ukubuzwa
Okukhula kokuqonda umuzwa okukhuluphele kubonakala kanjani ebusikweni?
Ungakwazi ukuchasana ngokunzima nomuntu ngaphandle kokuthatha ngokwakho noma ukubuza ubudlelwane. Uzwa ukudisappointment ngaphandle kokuwela. Ungakwazi ukubamba izinqwaba eziningi ngesikhathi sinye: "Lenqumo yalimala abantu FUTHI yayidingekile." Uzwa kakhulu kunokuchaza. Uzibona imikhawulo yakho ngaphandle kwesoni. Ungakwazi ukucela uxolo ngaphandle kokuvikela. Ufundisa abanye hhayi ngoba unezimpendulo, kodwa ngoba uyazi indlela yokukhula.
Ingabe okukhula kokuqonda umuzwa okukhuluphele kusho ukuthi angizwa izinto ngokuqina?
Cha. Okukhula kusho ukuthi uzwa ngokuqina futhi ngokusobala ngaphandle kokubhekwa yizimuzwa. Ungakwazi ukufa ngezinyembezi futhi ucabange kahle. Ungakwazi ukuthukuthela futhi ungahlaseli. Izimuzwa ziba yinzwadi kunokuba yimiyalelo. Lokhu akukwenzeli ukuba ubanda; kuyakwenzela ukuba uxhumeke ngokwenene ngoba izimpendulo zakho zivela ekukhetheni, hhayi ekusabela ngokushesha.
Yini inselelo yami enkulu yokukhula esigabeni sini?
Izinto ezivamile ezingalungile: ukunikeza kakhulu (uthatha uxanduva lokukhula kwabanye), ukusuka kude (ukuvikela kakhulu), nokusimama okusisekile (indlela yakho yokubona yaba yisikweletu). Inselelo yokukhula: qhubeka nokubukazwa ngamacebo abanye, gcina ithemba kanye nokuqonda, futhi ubale ukuthi okukhula okukuqala kuquka ukungaqinisekile ongakwazi ukuqonda. Bathanisa abadala noma abafundisi abakusigabeni esilandelayo.
Ingabe ngingabuyela emuva esigabeni sangaphambili sokukhula?
Yebo, ngaphansi kokucindezeleka okokuqhubekela phambili noma ukulimala. Ukubuyela emuva kuyinto evamile; akukusho ukuthi wehlulekile. Ungase ubuye emuva ngaphansi kokuswela uthwala, ukulila, noma ukucindezeka kwesigaba. Impendulo yokukhula: qaphela ukubuyela emuva ngaphandle kwesoni, engeza usizo (itheraphi, uphumule, umphakathi), futhi ubuyele. Unezithuluzi zokubuyela ngokushesha kunomuntu othuthuka kusukela ekuqaleni.
Ngiyithini indlela yokugwema inselelo yokuba umuntu womuntu onelisayo umuzwa?
Abantu abakhulile bavamile baba ngumthakathi womuzwa, abantu bazwa ukusimama kwakho futhi babuthe kuwe. Misa imikhawulo ngothando: "Ngiyakuthanda futhi nangiyakwazi ukuba ngumthakathi wakho." Phakamisa usizo olungeziwe. Bonisa ukuzinakekela ukuze abantu babone ukuthi okukhula kuquka ukuvikela amandla akho. Khumbula: ukusiza umuntu ngaphezu kwamandla akho akusizi umuntu.
Yini isigabe esilandelayo sokukhula ngaphezu kokukhula?
Okukhula kwesigabe sokwazi kulethi umbono womuntu omdala, wakhona isikhathi eside ukubona amaphethini eminyakeni engamashumi, ubamba ithemba nokuqinisekile. Akukhukhulela kakhulu ekuziphiliseni komuntu kodwa ekumicelweni nokusale. Esigabeni sokukhula, gxila ku: qhubeka nentshisekelo, akhe ubudlelwane bokufundisa, thuthuka umkhuba wokwazi noma wephilosophi, futhi qala ukucabanga ngokuqonda okufuna ukudlulisa.
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