Ukwazi Kwemizwa Kwabantu Abatsha Abadala
Ukuthuthuka kokubona izinto ngezindlela ezahlukene, nokuthuthuka kwesigaba sokuba yindoda noma inkosikazi
Iphrofayili yakho yokwazi kwemizwa ikhombisa ukuthuthuka kwesigaba sabantu abatsha abadala, isigaba lapho uthuthuka kokubona izinto ngezindlela ezahlukene, uqala ukubamba izinto eziyinkimbinkimbi, nokuthuthuka kwesigaba sokuba yindoda noma inkosikazi.
Usukile ekuhlupekeni nokunzima kwesigaba sabantu abatsha, kodwa awukafiki ekuthuthukeni okuzinzile nokubona izinto ngezindlela ezahlukene okuvela ekusebenzeni isikhathi eside. Ukwazi kwemizwa kwesigaba sabantu abatsha abadala kukhombisa: amandla okuthuthuka okubona indlela abanye abantu abayibona, amandla okuqonda okungaqinisekile, uthando lokwamukela izincomo nokufunda, nokuthuthuka kokucabanga okukhona isikhathi eside. Ngesikhathi esisodwa, unzima ngesikhathi esisodwa nokuhlupeka, ukuthanda okuhle kakhulu, noma ukuthatha izincomo ngendlela yomuntu, kodwa ufunda okukhona ukumisa nokucabanga. Lesi isigaba lapho ukuthuthuka okuzenzakalelayo kunomthelela omkhulu, uthanda ukushintsha futhi akha izinhlelo ezozakha ukwazi kwemizwa kwakho isikhathi eside.
Amandla
- Amandla okuthuthuka okubona indlela abanye abantu abayibona
- Amandla okubamba izinto eziyinkimbinkimbi nokubona izinto ngezindlela ezahlukene
- Uthando lokwamukela izincomo nokufunda
- Ukuthuthuka kokuthanda okuhle okukhona isikhathi eside nokukwazi ukuhlela
- Ukuthuthuka kokwazi umuntu wakhe ngemizwa
Izindawo zokukhula
- Ngesikhathi esisodwa, unzima ukuthatha izincomo ngendlela yomuntu
- Ukuthanda okuhle kakhulu noma ukuzithola ngendlela emibi
- Ngesikhathi esisodwa, ukucabanga okumabili kuphela lapho kukhona ingcindezi
- Unzima okukhona okungaqinisekile noma okungacazululwa
- Ngesikhathi esisodwa, ukuhlangana nemizwa yabanye njengemizwa yakho
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Abantu abadumile abanephrofayela efanayo
Michelle Obama
Umuntu owelashwe ngomthetho nokubhala. Ikhombile ukuthuthuka kwemizwa ngesikhathi somshado, izinzima zomsebenzi, nokububele phambi kwabantu; ikhombise ukucabanga okuzinzile.
Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson
Umdlali nomuntu owenza izingoma. Ukhulume ngokuthuthuka kwemizwa, ukwelula okuhlupeka komndeni, nokuthuthuka okuzenzakalelayo; uthanda ukubaluleka kwezempilo yomuntu.
Ukufaniswa kwemisebenzi
Imibuzo evame ukubuzwa
Yini ukwazi kwemizwa kwesigaba sabantu abatsha abadala?
Lesi isigaba lapho uthuthuka lokubona indlela abanye abantu abayibona, ukubamba izinto eziyinkimbinkimbi, nokwenza izinqumo okungemuva kwamagugu akho esikhathini eside kunalokho okufunwa ngalomzuzu. Uthuthuka ukulawula imizwa njengomuntu omkhulu: amandla okuzwa izinto ngokunzima ngesikhathi okucabanga kahle, amandla okuqonda okungaqinisekile, nokufunda ezincomo ngaphandle kokububela. Lesi isigaba ngokuvamile siqala ekuphakameni kwesigaba sabantu abatsha kuya ekuqaleni kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu.
Ngoba kutheni ngisazama nokuqonda izincomo?
Esigabeni sokuqonda kwemizwa, izincomo zisazama ukuhlupeka, ungase uzwe izincomo njengokuthi umuntu akukuthandi noma njengokuthi akukuhle. Lokhu kuyinto evamile futhi kungatshintshwa. Zama: buza imibuzo kunalokho okuvikela, ulinde izinsuku ezintathu ngaphambi kokuthi uthathe izincomo ngendlela yomuntu, futhi cabanga ukuthi izincomo kumayelana nokwenza, hhayi umuntu. Umuntu owelasha ungatusiza uma lokhu kuvimbela ukuthuthuka kwakho.
Ngingayini ngokuthanda okuhle nokuthuthuka ngemizwa?
Ingozi evamile esigabeni sabantu abatsha abadala: ukusebenza ngamandla ukuze ufinyelele ekuthuthukeni kodwa ungakubali izinhlangano nabantu nezinto zemizwa. Ukuthuthuka okusizayo kuquka zombili. Zibophe izinhloso ezinezinzuzo (hhayi kuphela ezibonakala kuhle), investhe ezinhlangano ezibalulekile, futhi akhe isikhathi sokucabanga (ukwelashwa, ukubhala, umuntu okunike amaholo). Abantu abakwazi kakhulu bathuthuka ngemizwa futhi nomsebenzi ngesikhathi esifanayo.
Yini okumele ngithuthuke kakhulu esigabeni sami?
Ukubona indlela abanye abantu abayibona. Ukufunda ukuqonda ngempela indlela abanye abantu abayibona izinto, hhayi ukuze uvume nabo, kodwa ukuze ubonakale njengesibuko sabo, kuyinto enokunzima. Izindlela: ukuphakamisa umuntu ekuxoxeni, ukwelashwa, ukufunda izincwadi eziningi, nokuhamba. Lesi isigaba esisodwa siyakwazi ukwenza umsebenzi wakho nomuntu wakho ube nzima.
Kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukuya esigabeni esilandelayo sokukhula?
Okukhula akuwona indlela eyodwa; ungasuka phakathi kwezigaba kuye ngokuya ezingcindezweni. Ukusuka ekuseni kwentsha kuya ekukhuleni kuvamile ukuthatha iminyaka engu-5 kuya ku-10, futhi kuyenzeka ngokushesha uma wenza umsebenzi ozimele (itheraphi, ukunikeza amathiphu, inselelo nokuthuthuka). Kodwa isikhathi siyahluka ngomuntu. Abanye bafinyelela ekukhuleni okukhuluphele ngamalembe angama-30; abanye bathatha isikhathi esikhulu.
Ingabe leli kuhlu kokukhula kuyangibamba emuva emsebenzing wami?
Akukho okuthile okuthile. Okukhula kwentsha kulethi amandla, ithemba, nokuzimisela ukuchasana nokucabanga okusele, okuyizimpahla ezibalulekile. Lapho kunokubamba: ukulawula abantu abakomplikeyithi (ungase uthathe ngokwakho), ukuhamba phakathi kokuhlukumezeka kwesigaba (ufuna ukucacisa), nokubhekana nokwehluleka ngesibusiso (ungase uwe). Ukwazi nokuthuthuka ngokuzimisela kuyasombulula lokhu. Hlanganyela nabafundisi abakusigabeni esilandelayo.
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