Find out how you actually fight with your partner. A free 20-question test scores you across five conflict styles from the Thomas-Kilmann model, competing, collaborating, compromising, avoiding, and accommodating, reframed for romantic relationships instead of the office.
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It's built on the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument, a well-established model for how people handle conflict, reframed here specifically for romantic relationships instead of the workplace it was originally designed for.
No single style is automatically bad. Each one has a place, competing can matter in a real crisis, accommodating can matter when the issue is small, but leaning on the same mode for every fight, big or small, is usually what causes the most damage over time.
Same underlying model, different arena. Conflict Styles scores how you handle disagreement at work; Love Fight Style scores the same five modes specifically in romantic conflict, with scenarios about partners instead of coworkers.
Yes, that's the point. Take it separately, then compare, a Competing-Avoiding pairing plays out very differently than two Collaborators, and knowing which combination you're in explains a lot about your actual arguments.
Find out how you actually fight with your partner. A free 20-question test scores you across five conflict styles from the Thomas-Kilmann model, competing, collaborating, compromising, avoiding, and accommodating, reframed for romantic relationships instead of the office.
The Love Fight Style test takes the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument, a model built for workplace conflict and used by mediators and HR professionals worldwide, and points it at the fight you actually have with the person you love. Twenty questions score you across the same five modes: Competing (you push to win), Collaborating (you dig for a solution you both like), Compromising (you split the difference), Avoiding (you dodge the fight entirely), and Accommodating (you give in to keep the peace).
Nobody fights the same way with a partner as they do with a coworker, so this version swaps the boardroom scenarios for the ones that actually start arguments at home: who forgot what, who brings it up first, who apologizes, who leaves the room. Your result shows which mode you default to, what that costs you when the fight is small versus when it actually matters, and where your style clashes or clicks with a partner who fights differently.
Your dominant fight style across all five Thomas-Kilmann modes
What your style looks like from your partner's side of the argument
Where your default mode quietly costs you, even when the fight feels won
How your fight style pairs with a partner who avoids, competes, or gives in
When we disagree, I push hard to get my way.
Competing
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Find out how you actually fight with your partner. A free 20-question test scores you across five conflict styles from the Thomas-Kilmann model, competing, collaborating, compromising, avoiding, and accommodating, reframed for romantic relationships instead of the office.
No signup needed — your result appears instantly.
It's built on the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument, a well-established model for how people handle conflict, reframed here specifically for romantic relationships instead of the workplace it was originally designed for.
No single style is automatically bad. Each one has a place, competing can matter in a real crisis, accommodating can matter when the issue is small, but leaning on the same mode for every fight, big or small, is usually what causes the most damage over time.
Same underlying model, different arena. Conflict Styles scores how you handle disagreement at work; Love Fight Style scores the same five modes specifically in romantic conflict, with scenarios about partners instead of coworkers.
Yes, that's the point. Take it separately, then compare, a Competing-Avoiding pairing plays out very differently than two Collaborators, and knowing which combination you're in explains a lot about your actual arguments.
