What are the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse in relationships?

Criticism (attacking character, not behavior), contempt (disrespect, superiority), defensiveness (refusing accountability), stonewalling (withdrawal from conversation). Any one is a yellow flag. Two or more predict breakup within 5 years. Most couples with these patterns can change with awareness and therapy.

How accurate is Gottman's 94% prediction rate?

Very accurate for identifying at-risk couples in his research conditions. But it's identifying risk, not destiny. A couple showing these patterns can absolutely turn it around with therapy and intention. The 6% who stayed together despite patterns proved that behavior can change.

Can I use Gottman's work to assess my relationship?

Yes, as a tool for reflection. Do you recognize the Four Horsemen? Are you criticizing, showing contempt, getting defensive, or shutting down? These patterns are fixable: replace criticism with requests, contempt with curiosity, defensiveness with accountability, stonewalling with engagement. Awareness is the first step.